Dignity Memorial is dedicated to helping families create unique memorials. We can help you secure pre-arrangements and design a meaningful service, including guidance in writing a eulogy. Writing a eulogy can be a difficult task when time is limited and emotions are high. You may be tasked with writing a eulogy in addition to making funeral arrangements, supporting other family members and working through your own grief. To make it a bit easier, we at Dignity Memorial have outlined a few things that can help you write a touching and memorable eulogy.
Brainstorm and research
Start by gathering all the biographical details about the person you are eulogizing, including when and where they were born, important jobs they held, how many children they had and more. These details are a starting point for sharing meaningful stories. After all, your dad was more than the job he worked. Your spouse had passions beyond his children.
So how do you capture the best parts of a life? Spend some time thinking about what was meaningful to your loved one and which memories celebrate their life. Most everyone has a pastime that feeds their soul and reflects a deep interest. Maybe your wife was known for her beautiful garden or your father had a famous sauce recipe. Maybe your sister rescued hundreds of animals in her lifetime, or perhaps your brother was a secret sculptor. Talk to other family members and friends about their favorite memories and stories of your loved one. Here are a few thought-starters:
Once you’ve gathered all the information you can, start writing. If you’re having trouble getting going, pick a theme to help you organize your thoughts. If your dad spent most of his time outdoors, share stories related to his camping trips or the ways he shared his love for nature with others. Describe how your mom devoted her extra time to the community by teaching classes, helping at a food bank or serving on the board of nonprofits.
Each life is unique, and a well-written eulogy expresses a person’s unique personality, reminds people of the good times, and helps generate even more fond memories of a life well celebrated.
Edit and practice your delivery
Once you have a draft of the eulogy, start practicing. As you practice, you’ll most likely pause and edit several times, adding details or reorganizing your thoughts.
As you complete your eulogy draft, add a final tribute to close your speech. This could be a simple statement that ties your thoughts together, a favorite quote or a final heartfelt farewell.
Tips for delivering a eulogy
Before you take the podium at a funeral or memorial service, print out the eulogy in a large font with double line spacing so that you can easily read what you’ve prepared. Remember to speak slowly. Take deep breaths and make eye contact with family members and friends.
If while you’re sharing your eulogy, you stumble over your words or become emotional, that’s OK! It’s perfectly natural. Allow yourself to pause, wipe your eyes with a tissue and then continue with your message of love, laughter, remembrance and gratitude.
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